Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
When my oldest was in third grade, I had two little ones at home and one on the way. I was exhausted just trying to keep up with everything. But I insisted on making her lunch, filling her water bottle and getting her uniform out for the next day. I grew up in a single-parent home so I had unrealistic expectations of all that I would do to take care of my kids since I had to do everything for myself as a child.
I kept this up for several years until one year, when I had two in school and two at home, I got walking pneumonia. I was down for the count for quite a while so my husband lovingly taught the children how to make their own lunches and fill their own water bottles, and get their own clothes out for the next day.
And then he told them that this would continue even when I got better.
I can’t tell you what a BLESSING that was to them and to me. They learned to become more responsible and they learned to find ways to help instead of finding ways to be helped. And I learned that I don’t have to be Super Mom just because my own mom was human.
Now that my youngest is in eighth grade, I have even less time to make their lunches or even feel guilty about it. If you are struggling with “school preparation mania” or “Super Mom Syndrome” like I was, I encourage you to lighten your load. Your child can probably handle taking on some added responsibility. It prepares them for life and allows you to take a breath.
Trust me, you’re still doing plenty.
Posted on October 9, 2014
by Leslie Collins